SomeoneLikeYou Friday, December 9, 2011
Ever since 2005 we've not had one Christmas tree, but two Christmas trees. A traditional one, and a Chinese one. Some of you may wonder, "Why in the world would Lauren have a Chinese Christmas tree? She isn't Chinese!" Well, I might not be Chinese, but my little sister sure is.
Ever since I can remember I wanted a little sister. Someone to play Barbie dolls with and play dress up with. To swing around at the park and snuggle tightly. My parents knew how much I wanted a sister, and they wanted another child, too. They tried and tried, but unfortunately it was too late for them. In 2003 my family and I started to process to adopt internationally from China. They didn't want to adopt within the United States because of so many complications, and the situation in China touched their hearts. Thousands of little girls are abandoned every year because of the one child policy in China. Couples want boys, and the girls are tossed aside so they can try again.
It took two years for all of the paper work to be completed, processed, and reviewed. I remember in January of 2005 receiving a picture of my sister for the first time. Her name was Han Wei Le and she had beautiful, but incredibly sad almond shaped eyes. Her hair was chopped short and bluntly , and she didn't wear a smile on her face. I remember looking at her, staring at the picture that came in the mail and just crying. Crying, crying, crying. That was my sister.
A few months later in April of 2005 my parents and I traveled to China for two weeks to finalize the adoption, meet my sister for the first time, and take her home. The day we went to the adoption agency to get my sister I remember with such clarity. Every detail I can remember because it was such a monumental moment in my life... Seeing my sister and holding her for the first time was such a life changing experience. My sister. The little sister I had always dreamed and wished for. We named her Gracie Wei Le Pfieffer. And that she's been ever since.
I can say I love my little sister with all my heart. We don't do all of the girly stuff like play with Barbie dolls and dress up like I dreamed (because she's a total tomboy!), but have our fair share of fun.We fight, oh yes we fight and argue and sometimes 'hate each other' but...she's still my sister no matter what. I never see my sister as anything but my sister. She not Chinese. She's not adopted. She's just Gracie.
With much love, Lauren.